30 days · two complete paths
Back to Us
30 Days to Rediscover Each Other through small, sustainable steps.
Short practices and thoughtful questions help you hear each other more clearly — while staying connected to yourself.
A self-guided educational program
The architecture of connection
Closeness is not built from one grand gesture
It takes shape in the space between two people through attention, clear boundaries, and the ability to return to a conversation.
- 01
A person
Begin by noticing your reactions, needs, and the pace you can hold today.
- 02
The other
See the person beside you as someone with a distinct inner experience.
- 03
Contact
Create conditions where each person can listen with more attention.
- 04
Boundaries
Name consent, pauses, and the right to say no more clearly.
- 05
Pause
Slow the pace so tension does not remove the possibility of conversation.
- 06
Conversation
Speak about what matters without blame, tests, or pressure.
- 07
Rhythm
Small practices make attention regular and sustainable.
- 08
Continuation
Shape a way to keep contact alive beyond day thirty.
In brief
What is the programBack to Us?
Back to Us is a 30-day self-guided educational relationship program for adults who want to explore connection with a partner or begin with their relationship with themselves.
Program content and author information are checked against project materials and verified qualification records.
- Format
- Self-guided materials without personal support
- Duration
- 30 days at a flexible pace
- Paths
- For couples and for independent use
- Daily rhythm
- Usually 10–20 minutes, with a five-minute option
Two paths
Begin together or start with yourself
Both complete paths are included.
30 days
30 days of small steps toward warmer, clearer relationships
- 01Days 1–7
Safety & a clear starting point
- 02Days 8–14
Warmth & connection
- 03Day 15
A deliberate reset
- 04Days 16–21
Hard conversations without losing connection
- 05Days 22–30
Integration & a rhythm that lasts
Inside each day
A pace that fits your day
Choose what fits today: five minutes, the main 10–20 minute practice, or a deeper version of up to 40 minutes.
About the creator
Valeriy Kuzmin
Family psychologist & program creator
Completed 1,020 hours of professional retraining in family and child psychological counseling and systemic family psychotherapy.
The program centers on small, realistic actions: listening with less defensiveness, naming a boundary, taking a pause, or finding a way back into contact.
More about the creator and program boundaries
A self-guided educational program. It is not therapy, emergency support, or a substitute for professional care.
Can I do the program on my own?
Yes. The solo path helps you understand your needs, boundaries, reactions, and recurring relationship patterns.
Is it useful if I am currently single?
Yes. The self-guided path can help you prepare for healthier intimacy without losing your sense of self.
What if my partner does not want to join?
You can begin on your own. It is a complete path, not a reduced version of the program.
How much time does it take?
Most days take 10–20 minutes. There is a five-minute option and a deeper version of up to 40 minutes.
30 days, two paths, one sustainable rhythm
- Complete program & start guide
- 30 daily cards
- 5, 20, or 40-minute practices